115. 2024: How God Showed Up Pt 1: Business & Career
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Five years ago, after achieving my degrees and teaching as a professor, I was feeling proud that I had checked everything off my life list. But, I wasn’t satisfied in my marriage.
Today, I’m a relationship coach on a mission to resurrect the side of you that got lost in your relationship and responsibilities teaching you how to stop arguing and have more sex. Millions of people around the world soak up my content for advice on how to have a more satisfying relationship.
Welcome to our new podcast series - 2024: How God Showed Up. In this 3 part series I discuss the ways God showed up for me in 2024 in different areas of my life.
In Part 1, I talk about my journey with my career and my business and how there have been ups and downs.
Hear how I sat with God and my issues at work and listened to His response. God also encouraged me to trust myself in my business and He sent people to support me.
Everything is possible with God and I’m really proud of my accomplishments in my business and career this year.
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Episode Transcript:
Karina: Amigos, welcome back to relationships you understand with me, your host, Karina F. Daves, relationship expert, speaker and podcast host of this dope podcast. This will be a 30 minute episode divided into three parts called how God showed up. So for the first 10 minutes, we are talking about how God showed up in my business in my career. Then it will be how God showed up in my marriage. And that will be, then it will be how God showed up for me personally and my personal growth and so my wonderful podcast manager Megan is going to cut this up But for those of you that are watching it live you will have the opportunity to listen to the entire 30 minutes now and as you know none of my podcasts are Podcasts episodes are super long, but this one will be and I will do my best to keep on time So it is 4:25 and I need to go to 4:35.
Okay, here we go. Hi, Rudy. Amen. Yes, why? Yes, Jehovah Jireh, our provider. So let's start with how God showed up in my business and my career. And the reason why I wanted to do this series of how God showed up is because I think plenty of times we as believers tend to not necessarily be so public about how God is showing up in our lives. I think for the most part, people are very open about their relationship with God. Or maybe they're not. I know I am. I've always been since day one. I've always been open about the fact that I'm a believer. And I've also known that that came with a lot of risk and that came with the possibility of people possibly thinking that I judged them.
And I said this five years ago when I started this podcast. It's going to be five years in April. It's crazy, right? When it was called One Day at a Time. And when I started this podcast, I would always say that I'm not here to judge you. I'm here to love you. Right. And true Christians know that our position is not to judge. And so I really want to share with you how God showed up in my life through these three different ways.
Okay, so here goes, let's talk about my business and my career. So for those of you that may not know, I actually have a full-time job. I work at a tech company as an employee experience regional manager. So what that means is we have globally about 33 offices and I manage 10 of them. Now I manage all of the US and all of LatAm. So those are 10 different offices.
And my job is to make sure that facilities is running right, employee experience is running right, and that the teams that are on the ground facilitating those offices are also giving our employees the best experience. So one day I can be planning a huge event and the next day I can be flying to, you know, launch a new office in Brazil. And then the next week I'm working on SOPs for how we are measuring you know, our budgets for the next quarter or something like that. I have a wonderful team and I would say I started at this company in 2022 by the grace of God, by the way, can I just share that testimony? I had applied to over 700 jobs in a matter of probably like seven, eight years.
And I was part of the Obama plan where basically I was working as a social worker for 10 years knowing that my loans would be forgiven, but I had had enough with my position and I really wanted out. I really wanted to transfer over to another university or just forget it. Like, fine, you don't have to pay off my loans. I'll do it myself. And I literally got this job. It was recommended to me by such, such, such an amazing friend who's actually a sister.
And she texted me one day in like November or December of twenty twenty one. And she was like, are you still interested in a job like this? And I was like, absolutely. And don't you know, I ended up getting the position ten months, ten years and two months after all of that. And it was like the Lord asking me to sit still. So anyways, my first year at this company was epic.
I really was proud of my accomplishments. I transformed so many spaces. I traveled a lot. I created a lot of relationships and I was really, really proud of myself.
My second year was extremely rocky. It had a lot to do with a mixture of office politics and higher management, I would say, and their beliefs of our team, their beliefs of me and my work and things of that nature. know, listen, I could sit here and create a whole bunch of assumptions in my head about what it could have been. And I did that for a very long time and it spun me out. It really spun me out. But I didn't start off the year in a good place. And in at the end of 2022, I would say, maybe this is 2023. I think it was at the end of 2022, we actually suffered a pregnancy loss, which I didn't share and I'm sharing with you all now. And so the beginning of 2023, actually, 2022 was amazing. 2023, half of 2023 was amazing. The latter half of 2023 was difficult. And so I started off 2024 very rocky. That's actually how it happened. And I remember sitting with it. I remember calling a whole bunch of people for advice. Like, what do I do? Like I just don't know what to do, I don't know how to solve for a lot of these issues. And especially as a relationship expert, I can see how people are moving and sometimes things are out of your control, right? Sometimes a company will be a company and corporate will be corporate and it's outside of your hands. And there were many beliefs about me that were just not true. And I had no idea what it could have been attributed to. And I remember sometimes thinking like,
Is it attributed to the fact that I'm very public about my business and my relationship business? Could it have been that perhaps, you know, I am too forward? I'm very I'm a very direct person and I was very intentional the first year making sure that I was very much riding along versus the next year. I was very much in a year of implementation and that's what caused a lot of the tension and I never felt like during that time we couldn't just like get on the same page with me and our team and leadership.
And so at the beginning of 2024, I also had lost a team member and one was assigned to me and I really wasn't happy about that. And I really just wasn't happy. was, I wouldn't say I was burnt out, but I was borderline really tired of carrying a lot of the weight.
And I also was not happy that I didn't have the ideal makeup of team that I wanted. And so I in the beginning of twenty twenty four, I called a whole bunch of friends and I was like, what do I do? What do I do? And people gave me really good advice. And then some people were like, you know, start searching, but the market is crazy. Some people advised me to really put my foot down and make sure that I, you know, write everything down just in case there were a lot of different pieces of advice that people gave me. And to be honest, I did it all. Like I took everybody's advice and I tried it and that's part of me and being a risk taker. And so in 2024, I was just in this messy place. And in the summer, things started to get a bit better when I brought it to God.
And how God showed up is what I asked him to. Plenty of times, you know God, but you don't ever ask him to show up. And it wasn't until I sat with God and my issues at work that he told me to stand still. And I was like, what? Do you see what's happening? Do you see what is being said? Do you see the lies? And the Lord was like, sit still.
I will show them who you are. And I was like, but is that your job or my job? And here's the thing. I, God knows how stubborn I am. So during that time, I was like, fine, Lord, you want me to surrender this? You want me to put my head down and just work my butt off? Fine. I will do that. And I will trust you. And so over the next six to eight months, that's exactly what I did.
And I ended my career in 2024. I didn't end, but the way that I would say it ended was on one of the highest notes I've ever had. And that came from such a deep place of surrender. And I know who I know if you're listening to this, you're like, but what about this paperwork and what about this person saying this and yada, yada, yada? And I think the way that God showed up was like he I was in line to file a complaint. Just think about this hypothetically and imagine the Lord coming in and putting his hand over my chest and saying back up. I got this. You ever be in that situation where somebody's like back up. got this. That's how it happens. And I felt this like intense, like I got this. This is not for you to handle. And that was difficult for me. And it ended up ending in like the best note ever.
The reviews I got my performance review that's coming up. had one in the summer. just it's gonna I know it's like on a high when it comes to my business. I would say that the way that God showed up now I'm transitioning to that. So as you know I have my nine to five in tech which I commute to the office during the week for and which is why a lot of my reels are in my car. A lot of my stories are on in the train tracks at the train station walking in the city of New York and I Really felt like at the beginning of this year. I Was not trusting myself in my business. I was very much relying on What other people were asking me to do and the thing about it is like I'm such a good student And I'm also a great teacher, but I'm only a great teacher If I feel like what I'm teaching, I'm an expert in versus I am not a good teacher. If it's something that I feel like I lack experience in, I just I'll just continue being a student. And so at the beginning of this year, I really felt like, you know, I had all these thoughts about my business and I was like, so much has to change, you know, all this other stuff. And then it hit me where God was just like, you just need to serve like you just need to serve. You need to go back to 2021, 2022, Karina F. Daves that just made reels to serve people you need to serve and you need to figure out how to solve people's problems. And so that's really where the movement of solving your number one issue really not stemmed from but continued. And because last year if you have been following me for a long time, I had veered off and this is just like good business testimony to share with you. But I had a couple of clients that had had results with intimacy. And so I veered off and I started selling, you know, how to stop arguing and have more sex. And I thought it was landing, but I did it. I'm very committed. So I did it for six months and it didn't land. And I realized that I veered off. And so I went back to solving your number one issue and I asked myself, like, what is it that I want to do? And I have a post that I'm looking at and it says, I'm going to hit a hundred K in my business this year, no matter what. I'm not in a rush. Everyone wants to work with me. Seek God first. I can solve any relationship problem you have. I'm better than Godman. Like that's that's the heart posture that I had to keep telling myself.
And so I would say the first quarter was very difficult. I had I'm looking at my sales. I had three sales in the first quarter, which I'm used to maybe having more along the lines of like six minimum three. Well, I did have three, but it was just too low for me. like, this is, I don't think this is good. And so I ended up really, trying everything out. I hired an amazing business consultant that at the time has, and still has a marketing agency. And I thought maybe it's a marketing problem. Kiara actually is her name. She's amazing. And she studied my business, like it's nobody's business. And we came up with a lot of just like little tweaks, you know, and she was one of the first people to tell me like, there's not a lot that you got to change about your business. It just needs to be tweaked a bit. And so during that period we tweak some things and it went, it went well. And here's the thing, like I'm a big risk taker. And so I was taking a risk and we ended our time together and I was alone again and I was like, dang, April came, no sales. And I was like, what am I doing? Then I took her advice and I decided to do a cheater series called the Cheater Series. And I walk you through how when you get cheated on what happens and sort of the mindset that you have and how to work through that. Well, lo and behold, May I end up selling from my podcast, which I had never done. And so the goal is to not only sell from social media, but to also sell from things like email or your podcast or other offers that you may have. And at this point, I was only selling from social media. Now, when I started selling from my podcast, I was like, this is amazing. And I got so happy and I was like, we're going to solve every single cheating issue you have. And it was a very sensitive topic for me. think divorce and cheating is actually a topic that I had some difficulty coaching clients through because of how much pain it brought. But I realized that like I am the very person that got it lined in their lives to solve it. And so after that, we ended up again, doing some more tweaking and we ended up working together in August and September one-on-one. And I just had this shift in my mindset. And, and Kiara was one of the people that told me this and another coach actually a new med as well shared with me that like, You're Karina F. Daves and I don't think you realize in other words that you're Karina F. Daves. And I was like, yeah, I don't because I'm on the other side. So I don't see what you see. I just I mean, I can rewatch it, but I don't feel what you feel because I'm the one sharing the information. So I only know from what you share with me in DMs or comments or things of that nature. And so in the end of quarter two, I made the decision to trust myself and I was like, you know what? We just go and tweet this and we go and tweet that and we just gonna go with it. And we're gonna risk any type of comfortability. And what's interesting is when I decided to trust myself, and I would also give credit to a lot of people, I feel like I just have to name them to share. I would give credit to my really good friends that are also business coaches, Erica Cruz, Cat del Carmen, Liz Fernandez, Mariela de la Mora, and also my business coach at the time, Dielle Charon.
Kiara from KLC Studio, a new ma also who's a health coach was also giving me business advice. There was just so many. I think God sent people in my ear that were really there to remind me like, girl, you've already built the brand. Like all you need to do is show up. And I was like, really? I was like, why do I always think I got to make it different? And I did it I'm way over these 10 minutes. So sorry, Megan. But, I would say that how God showed up for my business and I'll end it here is that we ended up hitting six figures for the very first time in sales in my business in 2024 and not accumulated, but just in 2024, we hit six figures in sales. My accountant was so proud of me. My husband was so proud of me. My friends were so proud of me. My coaches were so proud of me. And I just want to share that because I think, you know, there really is this perception that things are not possible and I just want to let you know to remind you that everything is possible with God. But God with God, like everything is possible with God. And I'm really proud of myself for that, especially and I just have to say this and not in a boastful way. And I hope you know my heart posture for me. This is such a big deal. Am I cry, but this is such a big deal for me because I and I know everybody has a lot going on, so I'm not comparing myself to anybody but to me this is such a big deal because I have a lot going on. I'm a wife. I'm a dedicated wife. I'm a mom. am somebody that has a full-time job and a business and clients like I'm just really proud of myself. And so God came through in my business in my career by telling me to stand still to trust him and to trust myself and so.
If you're listening to this in your car right now after it gets posted, just know that this is the end of part one and a series of how God showed up. So I'm to go ahead and pray for your business and your career right now. And Megan, you can end this episode when I'm done praying. OK.
Father God, we thank you so much for this day. We ask that any convictions that we have in our hearts that are heavy about the job placements that we're in or career placements that we're in or business transactions that we're making, Father God, would you convict us of moves that are just not aligned with ethics that are not ethical? I really feel it on my heart right now that many of us have to be convicted of how ethical we may be during a lot of these moves that we're making in our lives. So Father God, I ask that you bless our careers, bless our finances, bless our businesses, but also make sure that we feel that deep conviction of are we being ethical? Okay. All right.
Listen, if you're listening to this episode, I want you to know that I am here for you and come back for part two as we continue this series, how God showed up. And next we're going to talk about marriage. And if you're listening to this as well, I want you to text me at I text with the word relationship to 208-943-5363 and let's chat about your number one release ship issue and we'll get you subscribed to the hotline so I can give you a private episode under five minutes telling you your problem, telling you an answer to your problem, okay?
