Every episode of the Relationships. You Understand? Podcast is filled with testimonies, tools and strategies to help you stop arguing with your partner and have more sex. A better relationship starts with a better you.

Are you partners or just roommates?

Tired of just coasting through your relationship? If you’re feeling like ships passing in the night, it’s time to clear out the emotional clutter and get real with each other.

Spring Clean Your Relationship is for couples who are done playing roommates and ready to reignite their connection.

No fluff, no fake smiles—just the truth about where you stand and what it takes to move forward, together. If you’re ready to do the work, this series is your blueprint.

  • Love isn’t always enough. Are you still each other’s person, or just living under the same roof? This one question could break open everything.

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  • Your values are the foundation. Are you building a life together, or are you two worlds apart? Time to get real about it.

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  • Enough with the vague “someday” goals. What are you actively working toward, together, right now? Let’s set some real intentions.

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  • No sugarcoating here. Let your partner tell you how they really see you. It’s raw, it’s real, and it might just be the wake-up call you need.

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Spring Clean Your Relationship Series

75. How to Stop Keeping Score & Have More Sex
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

75. How to Stop Keeping Score & Have More Sex

In this episode, we feature risk taker and bubble of joy, Shianna Rodas. Listen as she takes us through her journey of cave seasons, risk-taking, and feeling grounded with her life-changing decisions that repeatedly stretch her faith.

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74. How to Stop Arguing About Your In-Laws & Have More Sex
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74. How to Stop Arguing About Your In-Laws & Have More Sex

Money can be such a significant source of stress in our relationships, often leading to arguments and tensions.

In this episode, we dive deep into the complex relationships between money and intimacy and I share my personal framework and strategies to help couples stop arguing about finances and enjoy a more fulfilling sex life.

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73. How to Stop Arguing About Money and Have More Sex
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

73. How to Stop Arguing About Money and Have More Sex

Money can be such a significant source of stress in our relationships, often leading to arguments and tensions.

In this episode, we dive deep into the complex relationships between money and intimacy and I share my personal framework and strategies to help couples stop arguing about finances and enjoy a more fulfilling sex life.

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72. The Worst Year of My Marriage
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

72. The Worst Year of My Marriage

Listen as I get deep and very raw about the worst year of my marriage. This was a stage of my marriage where its limits were tested.

In this episode, I recount the challenges that pushed my husband and I to confront our deepest insecurities and vulnerabilities.

From communication breakdowns to external pressures, I walk you through how we weathered our storms.

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70. Battling Boredom in Your Relationship
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

70. Battling Boredom in Your Relationship

Whether you've been together for years or are in the honeymoon phase, the battle against boredom in your relationship is a common challenge.

Join me as I share my framework for battling boredom in your relationship called P.L.A.Y.

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69. Reasons Why We Settle In Our Relationship
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69. Reasons Why We Settle In Our Relationship

Listen to this episode as we dive deep into a top unspoken topic of why we sometimes find ourselves settling in our relationship.

Join me as I navigate the complexities of human emotions and decision-making, uncovering the underlying factors that lead to compromise and settling for less than we deserve.

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68. Boundaries With Your Amigos
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68. Boundaries With Your Amigos

This week's podcast episode focuses on our friendships and one of the tools I believe strengthens the foundation of our friendships: BOUNDARIES. 

Listen as I share the importance of having boundaries with your friends. Friendships are essential for our well-being, but being able to maintain healthy boundaries within these relationships is equally crucial. 

I'll go over:

What boundaries are

Why it's necessary to have boundaries in your friendship

The main objection people have for setting boundaries in their friendships

How to start setting boundaries and so much more! 

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67. Dating Someone With Kids
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

67. Dating Someone With Kids

Listen as I dive deep into the complex world of dating someone with kids and explore the challenges, rewards, and even dynamics that come with such a relationship.

Whether you're a single parent contemplating entering the dating scene or you're considering dating someone with children, this episode will offer you valuable insights and advice to help you make an informed decision.

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66. How To Let Go
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

66. How To Let Go

Listen to this episode as I share the top reasons why it's difficult to let go of a relationship.

I go over my personal framework called H.O.M.E which has helped my clients get through the process of surrendering their partner and their life.

In this episode, I teach you that surrendering is such a personal process and it's super important to be patient with yourself throughout. Time and grace should be your new besties during this process.

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65. 1 MIN EPISODE: Your Caring Turned Into Control
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65. 1 MIN EPISODE: Your Caring Turned Into Control

We aren’t perfect, and that’s okay. But it’s important that we recognize when our caring has turned into control.

While the intent was to care for our partners, it quickly turned into being aware of every single one of their moves.

And in the process, you lost yourself. Things can STILL change.

Listen to this short episode where I share how your caring can turn into control and how surrendering is the key to it all.

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64. Your Suffering Is Your Superpower
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

64. Your Suffering Is Your Superpower

Listen as I share a very powerful testimony that took me over 15 years to share. This is a story of resilience and a near-death experience.

In this episode, I share how there are pivotal moments in our lives where we truly realize that there is more, and this was one of them.

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63. How to Have Difficult Conversations
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63. How to Have Difficult Conversations

Listen as I share how to have difficult conversations in your relationship. I teach you my framework for having uncomfortable conversations and the ABCs of it.

In this episode, I guide you through each step not just of what to say but how to prepare your heart posture for these conversations in your relationship.

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62. Busyness is the Enemy of Relationships
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

62. Busyness is the Enemy of Relationships

Listen as I share how busyness is hurting your relationship. There is a big difference between being busy and being selective about how you spend your time.

In this episode, I share with you the core difference between what a heart posture of busyness and a heart posture of being selective and intentional looks like.

I teach you how being busy isn't a flex because it's focused on tasks and not the heart.

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61. Ways We Listen to Our Partners
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

61. Ways We Listen to Our Partners

Check out this episode as I highlight and break down the top ways we listen to our partners.

The top ways we listen to our partners are:

As the Fixer as the Safe Space as the Motivator as the Protector

I share how each of these ways of listening to your partner can actually benefit your relationship, but it all depends on the delivery and your ability to surrender.

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60. Having a Desire Vs. Being Equipped
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60. Having a Desire Vs. Being Equipped

Listen to this week's episode "Having Desire Vs. Being Equipped" as I go through the difference between having a desire to want to be in a relationship versus being equipped to be in one.

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59. Your Values Are Shaky
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59. Your Values Are Shaky

Listen to this week's episode as we talk about the top 3 reasons why relationships don't work out. For this episode, we will focus heavily on values and how when our values are shaky, our relationship isn't as strong as it could be.

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58. Let Your Friends Go
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58. Let Your Friends Go

Listen to this week's episode as we talk about the top 3 reasons why we let our friends go. There is a reason behind why you both grew apart and in this episode, we finally expose why.

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57. Why Your Relationship Isn't Working
Karina F. Daves Karina F. Daves

57. Why Your Relationship Isn't Working

Listen to this week's episode highlighting the biggest relationship issue out there which is that people don't know what they want.

And you don't know what you want in a relationship, because you don't know who you are.

Listen to this episode as I break down the different identities that have overcome your OWN identity and ability to show up as.

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56. You're In a Checklist Marriage
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56. You're In a Checklist Marriage

Listen to this week's episode "You're in a checklist marriage" where I discuss how many of us end up in a checklist marriage and the three areas we need to focus on to transition out of it.

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